I’ve got to tell you something about me: I do this thing called #ashkicking.

It just comes out sometimes. I can’t help it. If you’ve ever coached with me or collaborated with me you’d know about it. Sometimes I just have this overwhelming truth that I have no control over and it actually causes me physical discomfort until I share it.

My more woo-tastic friends would call this a “download”.

And even though they come fast and quick…always remember #ashkicks are said with love. I just worry that we’re all wasting too much time and we gotta get into action!!

Way back in the day when I worked at Madison Square Garden I was sick of my job, my co-workers made my skin crawl, I was physically a wreck. I tried a lot of things to feel better: acupuncture, herbs, self help.

Wanna know the #1 thing that got me out of my own head and into a state of joy??

(important note: everything, everything you do should be about getting into joy)

I volunteered.

I was so unhappy and so wanting someone to swoop in and save me. And ya know what finally did?

Taking a group of kids from a homeless shelter to the library one Saturday per month. Not because they were “worse off” than me, but because of their faces lighting up when they opened a book filled with animal pictures. Or because I saw what it meant for them to be told they did a great job sounding-out a short book.

Pro-tip: Find a kid who doesn’t get a lot of 1 on 1 adult time and tell them you’re impressed with what they just did.

The light you’ll create in their eyes will change your life. I actually believe it’s those moments that can change the world.

OK here’s your #ashkick: No matter where you are or what you’re going through, you can give a little to someone else. Whether that’s writing a love letter to a stranger like my girl Hannah Brencher (literally just the cost of a small piece of paper) or if you want to find an organization that supports women and girls like the ones recommended by Half The Sky authors Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn.

Maybe you just want to hang out with neighborhood kids and play ball or color…contact your local community centers and libraries, I promise they could use your time.

As a person interested in improving yourself, I can’t think of anyone better to be out there changing the world.